my mom has arrived............

so as i posted, my mom and brother r gonna be here for 10 days. i picked them up from the airport yesterday and drove them around to get their stuff done for 5hrs -- at the end of the night, my head was melting from the inside...

my brother, benny, has a girlfriend here even though he has moved back to hk permanently living with our parents almost a yr ago and he asked me to go pick her up so that she can come along to have mom's driver's license renewed and renting a car -- "it's on the way anyways" he said. no it wasn't.

me driving, benny was sitting next to me and my mom was at the back. obviously, benny would wanna sit at the back with his girlfriend since they haven't seen each other for months, so he asked, "later, do u wanna sit at the front, cuz it's not comfortable at the back." coward. my mom, being as u-should-only-care-about-me-and-no-one-else as ever, said "i'm comfortable back here."

because of recent events in my life, i understood the pain of missing someone -- and at least his situation was a two-way street -- so i did what was very untraditional for a chinese family by telling her off, "u know they haven't seen each other for months, can't u be nice?"

after a few moments of silence, my mom started cleaning up the back seats, "well, let me clean this up so that ppl can sit here comfortably." queen of passive aggressiveness -- she was trying to make me feel guilty and to show herself as "nice" by suddenly cleaning my back seats.

we arrived at the girlfriend's apt building and he went to get her. both me and my mom got outside of the car to get some fresh air. and she wouldn't let the it go, "so how come u'r so suddenly in-tune with relationship stuff?" i unwillingly replied, "because i got dumped."

here's the thing -- my mom, even when i was a little kid, always tried to tell me (directly or indirectly) that i should not love or have any affection for anyone else other than inside the family. meaning = HER

so the rest of the conversation was like this:

"because i got dumped."

"how long were u two .. 'together'?"

"8 months."

"that's not long."

"not short either."

"it's still not long."

"when u fell in love with a person u fell in love with a person."

"is felling in love and all that stuff so important to u?"

benny and his girlfriend showed up, talking and smiling. they seemed happy.