tragic love story

i was talking to McDaddy on the phone last night (talking to him about my introspections have become quite a habbit of mine). one piece of the conversation was about "love story". but not the ones in the movies (not exactly), but the ones in life - the relationships u would have: do u want it to be relatively smooth sailing from meeting the guy, to start dating the guy, to falling in love, and to thereafter. OR r u one of those ppl who prefer a rougher history with the guy and, hence, more obstacles to overcome and resulting in more passion and reward.

the whole thing might depend on ur point of view of "is it supposed to be this hard".

if u believe that it's not supposed to be hard, then u would likely believe that there should be a LOT of compatibilities and u two just click and everything else in life were also helping the coming-together of u both. it's like "mr. right" theory - perfect for each other. then u would be more incline to choose the first scenario in ur own "love stories".

but then, of course, as magical as it might be, i have come to realize i don't believe in "mr. right" (it has nothing to do with mr. right-now either!). i don't believe in the "perfect person" that might or might not come along. i believe in there's a scale of compatibility - from 1 to 10, and 10 being perfect - but somewhere in the middle of the scale is fine for me. cuz there's no guarantee that there's a 9 or 10 out there for me. if u think about it rationally, even if there is a 9 or 10 out there for u, why would that person be living in the same city as u anyways?? he might not even ever come to ur city and u might not ever end up in his city. and the ppl in the city u'r living in now? just how many ppl r there? right?

and also, i think i like obstacles. or, at the very least, i would try to overcome the obstacles if they should ever show up. i'm not afraid to try and i don't wanna end up thinking about what-if-i-tried-harder in later yrs. those r the questions that u will never be able to find answers for; and those could easily be one of the regrets to bring to ur grave (when i said that "bring to ur grave" idea on the phone with McDaddy, he said i was looking ahead too fast lol).

i think overcoming obstacles can be hard. but may be it's meant to be hard because it is worth it. because u would cherish it more, because u won't take the person for granted (as opposed to if it was relatively smooth sailing than there was no struggle to get to the point of where u r). and most of all - because it is romantic.